July 23rd, 2011

I am constantly getting directions. It’s the nature of my business as a traveling persona to need to find out how to get to places so that I can arrive on time without being exasperated by the action of getting lost. In the early days of my travels, I was at the mercy of the locals, who tried to explain how to get to their location, beginning with the presumption that it was easy (since they already knew where they were). Often little details were left out, which would have made it easier to arrive at the destination intact, without pounding the steering wheel too many times or speaking nastiness aloud about the direction-giver.

Nowadays, we have Google maps, Mapquest and, of course, GPS. They all work remarkably well—except when they don’t. And usually what happens when they fail that the first or last turns are incorrect and you head off into errant oblivion.

For after all, when the primary piece of instruction is incorrect, everything else fails to move you towards your goal.

I see this problem in my country. Our primary concept of social interaction is flawed. In the pursuit of accepting diversity, we fail to acknowledge that most things about us as people are similar. It sends us off into the wild blue yonder of confusion.

Case in point: when we believed that black people were different than white people, it didn’t lead to mutual understanding, but rather, segregation, prejudice and bigotry. The same thing is true with folks who came from Ireland, Italy and more recently, Central America. As long as we focused on our cultures and the uniqueness of them, we had grounds to place one another at a distance rather than embracing our vast spectrum of commonalities.

It’s actually sinister.

And it begins with this ongoing, ridiculous notion that men and women are different. For the vast majority of us, the primary relationship we have in our lives will always be with someone of the opposite sex. When we believe that our traits and ideas are worlds apart, we manufacture bigotry. It masks itself as humorous, but actually, it lends itself to a back-biting antagonism.

I have traveled and worked with women my whole life, and I will tell you that women are just like men in the sense that they become better earth inhabitants when they believe themselves to be people instead of feminine objects of reverence. The men I have worked with in my life are more complete and Godly when they allowed themselves to emote and be equal with the women around them, rather than testosterone-driven sexual predators.

It is a wrong turn that is accepted equally by society and religion, and it keeps women in a weakened position—where they simulate power by appearing to be assertive and smart, while actually relinquishing their true equality by giving men authority over them.

I do not see Jesus treat women and men any differently in his ministry. In John the 3rd chapter, the dialogue Jesus had with Nicodemus is just as confrontational as the conversation he has in John the 4th chapter, with the woman in Samaria. Two chapters, back to back. Two discourses. One with a male, one with a female—both equal in intensity, intelligence and the anticipation that change would occur and be identical.

We are destroying ourselves by believing that touting our differences will turn us into tolerant people, inclusive and expansive in our thinking. It is ludicrous.

I love people because I find myself in them. When I don’t find myself in them, I don’t love them. Bluntly, what part of “love thy neighbor as thyself” do you not understand?

If I believe my relationship with women is purely sexual, with a climate of confrontation always in the air, I will not learn to appreciate their diversity, but rather, despise their difference and end up calling it weakness.

Culture may be an interesting inclusion in our pursuit of finding preferences in our daily choices, but when it is placed in predominance—as the main ingredient of our personality—it causes a warring in our species that is not only foolish, but completely unnecessary.

The Chinese may like a few different things from me, but I am one of them. The Arabs and Jews have made a living by insisting that they are massively separated in ideology. The end result is not understanding, but war.

And creating a war between men and women in this country is one of the most stupid actions I have seen in my lifetime. If differences do exist, they need to be played down instead of up. Otherwise, we will destroy ourselves and make the joining of a man and a woman a joke instead of a masterful, ingenious notion of our heavenly Creator.

When the first or last turns in a set of directions is wrong, everything else is just frustrating drivel. And when we believe that men and women are so separated that peaceful interaction is literally impossible, we are taking the primary joining of Eden and making a mockery of it.

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