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Are you supposed to like your siblings? I’m twelve and my sister is fifteen. She always acts like she’s better than me and I can’t stand her. My mom says that will change but I don’t see it happening anytime soon, if ever. How does this work? Nobody I know likes their brother or sister. I feel bad saying it, but it’s the truth.
There is an old saying which is basically true: “Familiarity breeds contempt.”
And as you probably know, the word “family” is at the root of familiarity.
There is absolutely no reason to believe that because people share certain aspects of DNA, they have natural emotional linkings to one another.
There is also historical fact that the heroes of our past had many problems dealing with their families, often having to go against those ties to achieve their purposes.
You don’t have to go any further than Jesus of Nazareth to discover squabbling among siblings. The Gospels make it clear that his family did not believe in him.
That being said, I contend that the purpose of family is to place us in a boot camp.
It’s a chance for us to find ways to get along with adversaries who live in our midst, eat at the same dinner table, share in grief and celebration, and acquire the ability to be merciful, gracious and forgiving, so that when we get in the real world, we are prepared to do so.
For this to work, we must be willing to admit that our families are not perfect, nor were they designed to be naturally connected.
In other words, if you were able to look at your sister as just another human being that you needed to deal with rather than some sacred creature born within your lineage, then you would have a much better chance to put your relationship in perspective, and maybe even understand her ways.
Brothers and sisters within a household fight with each other because we tell them they need to get along–simply because they’re related. It sets a horrible precedent, and we begin to believe that in the outside world we can avoid the people who disagree with us, and only hang around with those individuals who seem to be perfectly agreeable to our ideas.
What is your best procedure in dealing with your sister since you’re twelve years old? Do exactly what you’ll need to do when you’re 22, 32 or 72 years old: find common ground.
Don’t ever try to go beyond common ground. Otherwise, you’ll find yourself trying to change people, or worse, judge them because they don’t meet your standards.
If for some reason you cannot find common ground, then retreat to a position where peace can be achieved.
This is real life.
Forcing people to think they should love each other only leads to pent-up resentment, and worse, explosions of anger later on.
- What do you like about your sister?
- Is there anything you appreciate?
- How is she valuable to you?
Try to pursue those areas, and avoid the parts that upset you.
This is called growing up.
The overemphasis on family in our culture has not created more loving people.
It is the promotion of loyalty–often without affection.
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