1 Thing That Haunts Us

U. R. C.

It stands for Unresolved Conflict.

We’ve entered a time when maintaining civility, promoting peacefulness and a general sense of well-being has gained supremacy over the necessity of resolving conflict.

As a result, millions—perhaps billions—of people are walking around tolerating each other, trying to be as kind as possible, but struggling through strife which has not been addressed.

I will tell you clearly that unresolved conflict is the source of most of our fear, worry, gossip and depression.

Fear

In the sense that we do not know who to trust.

Worry

Because we are terrified that we’re being talked about behind our backs.

Gossip

Unable to resolve the conflict with the one we care about, we start discussing it with people who have too many opinions.

Depression

We give up and don’t talk at all—just muddle through our sadness.

Granted, there are times when there isn’t enough energy or desire to continue a discussion to a conclusion. There’s nothing wrong with walking away in the middle of a fight.

But both parties must agree to the following:

“This is not resolved but I promise not to discuss it with anyone else until we can get back together and talk again.”

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