Pick Your Eye Placement
The human eyes, being the windows to our soul, are perhaps our most powerful way of passing along our inner thoughts and unfortunately, our internal prejudices.
Bluntly, eye contact is powerfully overwhelming. Sometimes it’s just not needed. Often it can be intrusive. Matter of fact, animals in the jungle do not make eye contact with each other unless they’re ready to square off and fight.
Therefore, deciding what to do with your eyes in any particular situation grants you the peace of mind of knowing that you’re not passing along false information to other people because they misinterpret your gaze.
This is the power of the cell phone. When you’re going into an environment where you do not know anyone, you’re not aware of how things will turn out, or striking up conversations with the people next to you may be perceived as wacky, look down at your phone. Pen a note. Peruse a book.
If you want to convey that you’re deep in thought, stare straight ahead.
If your selection is to scan the room as if you’re keeping yourself open to possible introduction, then turn your head from right to left and go back and forth like you’re slowly mowing a lawn.
Yet, when you’re in a new situation, avoid eye contact. Since nobody knows you, it will generally be considered to be criticism.
As De Niro once said, “Are you lookin’ at me? Are you lookin’ at me?”
Save your eyeballs for better use—intimacy.
Where you place your eyes determines what you are communicating to the surrounding atmosphere.
Just keep in mind—until your presence is welcome, your eyes can be viewed as being too aggressive.
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