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Man: I’ve been really looking forward to talking to you about all this craziness in the political scene.
Woman: It’s really wacky, isn’t it?
Man: Yes, but I get tired of evaluating other people’s actions. The whole discussion got me thinking about my own conversations, interactions and dialogue with women. Am I saying the right things?
Woman: Do you think there are right things to say?
Man: Yes, I do. Matter of fact, I would like you to explain how some of the common phrases exchanged between men and women–well, how do they sound to you?
Woman: Well, I wouldn’t exactly know because we’re not in the moment.
Man: I get that. But can we try to discuss it?
Woman: Sure. Give me an example.
Man: Let’s say I just met you for the first time, and I walked up and said, “You’re so beautiful.” What would you think of that?
Woman: I think I would giggle inside. I wouldn’t be offended. But I also would know that you were coming from a school of thought which taught you that women need compliments in order to be opened up.
Man: You see–that’s great! Thank you. How about this? “I find you attractive.”
Woman: Actually, what you’re saying is that you see me as attractive, but you have no idea if my whole being is attractive to you or not.
Man: A third one. “Do you find me interesting?”
Woman: You’re asking me if you pass the “eyeball test.” In other words, is your face, body and physical being acceptable enough to catch my attention?
Man: How about, “Can I buy you a drink?”
Woman: Kind of weird.
Man: “Are you alone?”
Woman: Kind of stalker-creepy.
Man: “Do you think we could get together?”
Woman: Sounds like you suffer from over-confidence and have spent too much time speed-dating.
Man: I’ve heard that women like a more direct approach. Like this; “I think we should have an affair.”
Woman: Maybe when women are sitting around a table having consumed some alcohol, they pretend to be brave enough to field such an inquiry, but if a guy actually did that, we probably would desperately need to laugh out loud.
Man: And I would assume that laughing at a man is not a good sign, right?
Woman: Not unless he’s telling a joke.
Man: So what if it was a thoughtful question, like, “Are you experienced?”
Woman: Are you trying to hire a plumber, or a prostitute?
Man: You see, this is a great discussion. And maybe you don’t have the answer to this, but what do you think would be good, as a way to opening the door of possibility to another person?
Woman: Forgive me, but I think corny works. And by corny, I mean just awkward enough to know that the line hasn’t been rehearsed a thousand times in the mirror. I would be interested in any person–male or female–who would simply ask me, “Would you like to talk?”
Man: I like that. Will women respond well to that?
Woman: Probably not. Because we females have become so jaded by the Neanderthal approach toward sexuality. I think it would be nice if a man would just say, “I’ve been observing your interactions with people of all ages and I find your approach interesting.”
Man: Doesn’t that sound a little bit like a stalker, too?
Woman: Maybe, but not stalking to kill. Just watching to learn.
Man: So as a woman, what do you want to receive in the initial encounter?
Woman: Equity. Equal footing. The realization that I have a life that is real and functioning, and that I’m not waiting for a man to come along and complete me. So I’ll tell you a great question. I would be really impressed if a man would ask me, “What is your calling?”
Man: That sounds too old-fashioned.
Woman: Good. Old-fashioned isn’t bad just because it comes from a different era. Old-fashioned is still around because it’s worked.
Man: What I got out of our conversation is that any inclination toward physicality, sex, romance or even hooking up needs to be removed from the tone of the words, or it’s too shallow to wade into.
Woman: Very good. And keep in mind, romance is the by-product of a mutual understanding.
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