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I thought I would sit down and talk to you dear hearts about the It’s Fits. There are three of them.
It is a trio of common phrases uttered to relieve pressure, take away criticism and often to become overly optimistic.
If we begin to believe that these “it’s” have any capacity whatsoever to bring solution, we will certainly find ourselves in fits.
1. “It’s not fair.”
Whining is never attractive. We are completely repulsed by the fussy, teary and defeated profiles of others.
“It’s not fair” is like twirling around in every direction and pointing a finger at all the culprits who have prevented you from receiving your best.
Could it be your children? Maybe it’s your wife plotting. Your husband is nothing but a barking dog. Your company is insensitive to the needs of its employees. Or there must not be a God, because if there were a God, He would never have allowed this atrocity to occur.
Because we’ve been convinced that nurturing one another is the way to say “I love you,” we have babied all the human “house plants” into environments where they cannot stand to actually live outdoors in the sun.
Endurance
This word is necessary for human life: Without endurance, we give up, begin to blame others and become erratically annoying.
The truth is, it may not be fair, but it is learnable. The Earth has its ways and if you study them, you can change your whiny to win.
2. “It’s needing more time.”
Failure arrives to inform us that our direction is not favorable, but instead of learning from the correction, we decide that if more time were given—using the same plan—things would most certainly improve.
Sometimes the Earth speaks.
That’s why we need this second phrase in our journey:
Common sense
In other words, if it didn’t work, it didn’t work. Pressing harder or selling more doesn’t change anything.
The Earth is good to us by telling us quickly when something is shitty.
3. “It’s not my fault.”
Everyone has been in a meeting where a failure is dissected—all participants slicing at one another to be guilt free, punctuating their summary by saying, “It’s not my fault.”
Actually, the more quickly you take responsibility for your part in the failure, the sooner the pain goes away and the healing begins.
It leads us to a third word:
Responsibility
An irresponsible person is unstable in all his or her ways. Ultimately, such a person can get nothing accomplished.
So I realize you want to nurture your husband, your wife, your children and your closest friends, but the best way to do this is to encourage their endurance instead of accepting their excuses.
It is to praise their common sense instead of standing watch while they continue to hit their heads against the walls.
And finally, it is to demand responsibility instead of allowing people to slither away like snakes in the grass to hide in their holes.
- It’s not fair.
- It’s needing more time.
- It’s not my fault.
These are the “It’s Fits”—which keep each one of us from the endurance, common sense and responsibility that allow the second go-round to be drenched in good cheer and fueled by wisdom.
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