The Alphabet of Us: N is for Nice… March 9, 2015

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All human beings possess a heart, soul, mind and strength. Nothing of any true significance can be achieved unless this is understood.

Nearly seventy years ago, a grumpy baseball manager snarled to a nearby reporter, “Nice guys finish last.”

That should have been the end of it.

But he is still quoted by human beings who have given up on the idea of creatively finding ways to achieve their goals while still maintaining civility. Yes, we tend to extol the virtue of meanness while making fun of the childishness of being nice.

There are two problems with this.

Number one, the people who want to be mean to me expect me to be nice to them. They are not prepared for my rebound of meanness.

And secondly, for four thousand years the Jews and Arabs have pursued the “doctrine of meanness,” and may I say, the project is a complete failure.

Nice is not an abstract willingness to submit to the will of others. Rather, nice is the desire to get along with other people, and the determination to use our talents and intelligence to possess it.

So let us honor the beauty of nice. I shall teach you the “Head to Toe Show”–the anatomy of how we can use our entire being to actuate our goals:

1. I have a brain so I will use it to think of ways to succeed without hurting other people.

2. Having eyes, I see you as my equal, not my victim.

3. With my ears, I choose to hear your voice instead of just mine.

4. With my mouth, I speak good–or choose silence.

5. Using my neck, I turn toward hope and away from cynicism.

6. I shoulder my own personal responsibility.

7. I lend a hand … or maybe even two.

8. I don’t waste my waist, but I bend to change my actions toward acceptance instead of judgment.

9. I use my legs to walk toward helping people instead of away from them.

10. I kneel before something and someone larger than myself.

11. And I always put feet to my faith.

Nice is a decision to take our elements, from head to toe, and employ them toward solution instead of wallowing in aggravation.

It is when we reject the premise that survival means to kill instead of survival being a way to construct a much-needed network of fellowship.

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Populie: Deny and Defend… July 9, 2014

 

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nixon thumbs upReligion, politics and entertainment often get together and find what is popular, mingle it with a lie, and then set out promoting the fad for the masses. After all it’s the easiest way to get along in the short-term.

Unfortunately, it wreaks havoc on the emotions and soul of the human race while declaring a truce with an existing deception.

It is a populie.

Even though we tout that we are a Christian nation, we tend to receive our marching orders from other nations and their philosophies.

  • From the Jews and Arabs, we cling to “an eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth.”
  • From Buddhism, we believe that we have the power to enlighten ourselves.
  • And from the Hindu we have an inordinate worship of animals.

ClintonCase in point: we tend to prefer to deny having problems and defend our actions in covering them up.

Religion likes this because it makes human beings appear weak, and therefore God seems stronger.

Politics favors the idea because if you can survive a 72-hour news cycle about one of your failings, maybe it will go away.

And entertainment builds whole storylines around characters who either cheat or fudge on the truth, or defend themselves from dealing with difficulty.

Here’s the populie:

1. Deny. “I do not allow myself to make mistakes.”

2. Defend. “Therefore I will not tolerate critique from you or anyone else.”Obama

This populie creates a climate of lies, leading to an ongoing sense of mutual mistrust.

Since we don’t admit our fallacies, insist there’s no problem and refuse to be inputted by others, a complicated web of deceit is constructed and maintained by our spider sense.

It would be comical if it weren’t so dangerous.

And you can certainly judge your spirituality not on whether you attend church, but by whether you’re willing to deal with your problems without shame or falsehoods.

swaggartHonestly, this is what works in the human family:

A. Confess. “I will tell you myself where I’ve made mistakes.”

Confessing your faults one to another is the only way to set inner healing in motion. It is also the only way to prevent people from piling on.

B. Expand. “After I confess, I will tell you what I have learned through my mistakes and how I plan on improving my situation.”

If you want to be the victor instead of the victim, you have to be prepared to admit what is becoming obvious to all. If you get ahead of it, you’re leading the way instead of being drug with a rope by the mob.

Yet I will admit, this is probably one of the more difficult things for people to overcome. But if you don’t confess, be prepared to be confronted.

In the long run (which is often a shorter sprint than you might think) people do find out–and when they do, and they sense that you have tried to escape reality–the punishment will be more cruel.Newt

Deny and defend–a national pastime. But it is time to put it in the past.

In closing let me give you one idea on how to welcome this into your life: start very small.

If you left something on a table and someone had to move it, step over, apologize, and move it yourself. It’s only by practicing this kind of candor that you will gain the muscle to lift your own weights instead of having them dropped on your head.

“Deny and defend” may be one of the most popular of the populie–and may I add … one of the more devastating.

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