Stop Complaining
I know you’ve heard this many times—even by this simple writer.
But I would like you to consider it as a personal life choice and a means of procuring survival.
Complaining takes a very ugly route—a four-step decline into stinky doo-doo.
- Life sucks.
- You suck.
- God sucks.
- I suck because I’m stuck.
As you can see, with each new step, deeper and deeper depression sets in, until finally the complete sense of doom makes us feel we’re at the mercy of all circumstance.
Now, simply telling someone not to complain is like encouraging a friend on a diet not to eat too much. It often increases the temptation, and therefore sinks the ship of possibility.
I’m not trying to get you to stop complaining cold turkey.
I’m telling you to back your way out of it.
When you start thinking “you suck because you’re stuck,” just change the complaint to a statement—a simple one:
“This is the crux of what is really bothering me.”
You will be surprised, if you chase the bird to the tree, how much easier it is to see it.
So once you’ve made the statement—and it does not have to be happy or friendly—then change that statement to a memory.
In other words:
“Maybe God doesn’t suck. Maybe there was a time I was in just as bad a state as I am now and survived it. When did that happen? Do I have a memory of being victorious in any situation that was as horrible as this?”
If you can come up with a statement of what’s bothering you, deciding that you no longer suck, and then spark a memory of when you overcame, then therefore God doesn’t suck—and you might be able to change that memory to sharing.
Find one person among all those people that you think suck and tell him or her about your predicament.
Share about your complaint, how you found out what was at the heart of it, and how you came up with a memory of something you pursued before which succeeded—hence, “you’re not a little weenie.”
Yes, take the memory of being redeemed and share your hope.
So change your statement of dissatisfaction into a memory of overcoming your dilemma, and present that memory to another human being.
After this, you just might be ready to change your sharing into planning.
Said plainly:
“It turns out that life doesn’t suck. It just picks on people who expect everything to come their way.”
So you find yourself complaining: “Life sucks, you suck, God sucks and I suck.”
Here’s the counter:
- Change that complaining to a statement
- Statement to memory
- Memory to sharing
- And sharing to launching a great plan.
Complaining.
Best suggestion? Back off.
That’s often really good advice.
And not just for when you’re out chasing a serial killer with a squirt gun.
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