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There is much to be gained by studying the lifestyle of Jesus.
It’s not just the miracles or the Messiah “rap.” It’s mostly his message and his management style. Since he was human, he was completely capable of error–to such a degree that the Good Book tells us “he learned through what he suffered.”
We also can garner great insight from the mistakes Jesus made.
One of those was Judas.
We will never know why Jesus chose Judas. It wasn’t because the Iscariot was predestined to be the betrayer of Christ. If you believe that, you should go home, don your Medieval helmet and launch a Crusade to take back the Holy Lands.
Maybe Jesus saw something in the young Judean. It never came to fruition–but there still is much we can curry from studying the relationship. It is a tenuous friendship which came to a head ten days before the Resurrection–in Bethany just outside Jerusalem.
Mary, the sister of Lazarus, who had recently risen from the dead, held a party. I think having a brother who survived “grave circumstances” is well worth some nachos and punch. At the height of the affair, Mary decided to crack open a family heirloom–a flask of expensive burial perfume reserved for the family–which she chose to use to anoint the feet of Jesus. It was an extraordinary, tender moment between Mary of Bethany and Jesus of Nazareth.
The aroma filled the room–an intoxicating fragrance.
But Judas was pissed. He had probably been pissed a long time–and he decided he had found an Achilles heel in the Master’s footsteps–perhaps a way to make Jesus look stupid.
So he complained that Mary had used such an expensive gift for such a trivial purpose. To accentuate his point, he suggested it should have been sold and the money given to the poor.
Judas was convinced he had ground an axe to a sharp point to swing at Jesus’ reputation.
I don’t know why he hated Jesus when he loved him so much. Or maybe he loved him so much that he learned to hate him. I am not privy to the mental state of Judas from Kerioth.
But I do know that Judas thought he was right, and he believed that others were going to back him up. Instead, Jesus rebuked him. I suppose you could say that Jesus did it nicely. (Perhaps you could explain what a “nice” rebuke is.)
Jesus said Judas was out of line–that he had lost the meaning of the moment, and had put a price tag on intimacy.
But here is where Jesus made his mistake: he allowed Judas to leave the room without resolving the conflict. He gave too much credit to the Son of Simon. He figured Judas had heard enough teaching about forgiveness that there was no need to pursue it any further.
Jesus was sadly mistaken.
There is no such thing as a misunderstanding. It is always “your misunderstanding and how right I am.”
Unfortunately, all misunderstandings end in betrayal. If they are not confronted, talked out and healed, the unresolved conflict will eventually open the door to one party or another striking out.
Then we have the scenario of feeling pressure to say “I’m sorry.”
It usually comes forth like, “I’m sorry if I offended anyone.”
Another possibility is, “I’m sorry, and please forgive me.”
It’s amazing how that particular statement, which seems to be filled with humility, can suddenly turn back into anger if the wounded individual does not proffer forgiveness.
The truth is, there is only one response that is correct when ignorance, wilfulness, short-sightedness and nastiness spring from our being and attack another.
“I was wrong.”
Not “I was wrong but…”
Nor “I was wrong in this case, but in another situation it would be different…”
“I was wrong” takes the risk that there will be no forgiveness.
This is what Jesus needed to hear from Judas–even if it required Peter, James and John physically holding Judas in place. Keep in mind–peace-making can be a messy business.
But misunderstanding, “I am sorry if…” and “I am sorry, please…” do not bring about reconciliation.
They are ways for us to maintain our solitary purity while seeming to appear transformed.
You might ask, how do I know this? Because the Good Book tells us that Judas left the party in a snit and went out and plotted with the enemies of Jesus–to betray him.
This was an expensive mistake:
If you leave misunderstanding unhealed, the wound may pour forth blood.
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Iffing Way (Part 6): I Quit … November 24, 2014
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What if a voice of sanity had risen up at various stages in the story of human history, to offer a challenging view when craziness was about to win the day?
If …
He asked for a private meeting.
It is very difficult to spit out your feelings while swallowing your pride.
He was insulted. Being a fully grown man, he had been called down in front of his colleagues with no regard for his position.
It was certainly improper. If there isn’t a free flow of ideas, then there is tyranny.
Yet somehow or another he had succeeded in calming his spirit to request a moment of time with this friend who had offended him.
It was all a little silly, yet grounded in a principle which was important enough for making a stand.
Mary had no business taking such an expensive amount of ointment and pouring it out on the Teacher’s head and feet. Three hundred dollars! Did he have any idea what three hundred dollars could do to aid at least five hundred families in this poverty-stricken area?
Yet when he lodged his objection, he was tersely set aside and told that he shouldn’t criticize Mary for her deed because she was anointing him “for his burial.”
What a drama king! What burial? He was thirty-three-and-a-half years old and as healthy as an ox.
Judas could not understand why the Teacher was pulling up lame at this point instead of standing strong and propelling the mission to a glorious conclusion. It was ridiculous.
So feeling confronted, Judas had stomped out, not wanting to say something he might regret later.
Judas chose to be the mature one. But now what was he going to do? He would not play the role of the bruised puppy who had been slapped on the nose by his master.
He had been taught by his father Simon to stand up for himself–to find what was important and risk humiliation and even alienation to defend it.
Once, when he was a kid, one of his playmates had stolen some toys from him and he was in the middle of plotting for the young fellow a painful retribution. His dad stopped him, telling him never to betray his own conscience and soul, but instead, to confront his adversary and try to find terms of peace.
So Judas decided to talk to Jesus.
“Listen, I was really offended by what happened last night.”
Jesus remained silent.
Judas continued slowly. “I want us to be able to discuss this without me playing the part of the disciple and you being the big boss.”
Jesus continued to listen.
“You see, Jesus, my problem is that I don’t think we should waste money and then preach a message of taking care of the poor when we, ourselves, are squandering cash.”
Jesus sat quietly without moving a muscle.
A bit frustrated, Judas pushed on. “Are you listening to me? Do you feel what’s in my heart? Do you appreciate my opinion, or since it’s different from yours, is it irrelevant?”
Finally Jesus spoke. “What is it you want, Judas bar Simon?”
“That’s easy,” replied Judas. “I want to be heard.”
Jesus paused and then looked into his eyes. “I can hear you–unless what needs to be done is more important than your words.”
“Are you pushing me out of this?” demanded Judas with a bit of heat.
Jesus sat quietly, without speaking a word.
“Then I quit,” said Judas. “I cannot stay somewhere that I’m not respected, and my father taught me not to seek revenge or betray people just because they disagree with me.”
“Your father taught you well,” said Jesus.
“So this is it?” punctuated Judas.
“That’s up to you,” said Jesus.
“It doesn’t seem to be,” replied Judas. “It seems like you want me out.”
“No,” said Jesus. “There are just certain things that have to be in my message, in timing and in the flow. Your comments were not within those boundaries.”
Judas wanted to continue to argue but found it difficult to do so because Jesus was still warm, but no longer open.
“I guess this is it,” said Judas.
“I guess so,” said Jesus, and inserted, “I wish you well.”
Judas turned and walked from the room. He should have known it wouldn’t work out–he was from Judea and the rest of the followers were from Galilee. It wasn’t an issue of prejudice–rather, culture.
He went back home to South Judea, to Kerioth, where he settled in, started a family, but tried to keep up with the affairs and times … of the every-growing Kingdom Movement.
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