Don’t Be the First to Speak
I am fully aware of the attitude of our times and the pressure placed upon each and every one of us to dominate and establish our individuality and value as quickly as we possibly can. To do this, we’ve created a generation of gabbers and grabbers, wanting to grab the attention of the world around them by gabbing their way into positions of authority.
We have begun to believe that the person who can chat with the most efficiency is going to be the best candidate for leadership. Yet I tell you:
There is something greater than domination
Because the weakness of domination is that it limits the success of any project to the scope and talent of the dominator.
May I suggest this? Instead of dominating, we should allow ourselves the true purity of participating. In order to participate:
You can not enter a room talking
There are three reasons for this:
1. You do not know what’s going on in that room before you arrive.
2. The room may already have established a spirit which you might “unspirit.”
3. Guess what? This was your day to learn, and you talked right through it.
There is a spiritual intelligence to entering a room and remaining silent until you hear someone else speak.
It doesn’t make you a mouse, unprepared with anything to say. It makes you a saint—one who has arrived to contribute and assist instead of control.
Walk in a room, take a deep breath, listen to what’s being said, respond to questions that come your way, and then ease your way in with whatever gift you can offer to the mix.
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G-Poppers … September 1st, 2017
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A quick point from G-Pop.
If it is your idea to share your heart, it’s called vulnerable. If somebody else demands you share your heart, it’s called weak.
Human beings need the ability to make their own choice. When you remove this, you tinker with the soul. No human being has the right to tinker with the soul of another.
Yet rather than screaming about choice, it would be a good idea to learn how choice is acquired.
It’s really quite simple:
If you need to be wanted, you always come across as weak. On the other hand, if you need to be respected, you will generally be considered mean.
So at all costs, we must refrain from the need to be wanted–that fussy part of us that tries to pretend we don’t care what people think while simultaneously being addicted to the drug of public opinion. Because the danger is to rebound and try to become tough, demanding that people respect us–and when they don’t, plotting a foolish revenge.
This situation is not different in China as compared to Argentina. The people in the British Isles don’t have different criterion than those in Nigeria. All of us function in the same scenario. In other words, we rise and thrive by avoiding the feelings of needing to be wanted or needing to be respected.
Being wanted and respected is impossible until it is determined that you are valuable. So crawl into your own soul and make pearls–accumulating worth.
Make yourself interesting. Make yourself predictable in a good way. In other words, when the chips are down, you can be counted on.
There you are. If you are going to complain about the system, you’ll never be able to work with it. So how do we become valuable?
1. Stop seeking praise and seek opportunity.
2. Be willing to do important things on your own when others have given up.
3. Don’t criticize people for failing to have the same determination that you do.
4. Do the good deed and don’t hang around for the party.
5. Make sure that when you fail, you make it clear to those around you that you’re going to correct it or improve it.
6. Acknowledge the value in others.
G-Pop wants his children to know that they should not need to be wanted or need to be respected.
The power lies in becoming valuable to those around you–and then they will want you and respect you.
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