Ask Jonathots … May 5th, 2016

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What causes some siblings to grow up to be friends and others not? I’m forty and I’m not close to my sister at all. I have two teenage daughters, and I’m wondering what I could do to help them grow up to be friends. Your thoughts?

Perhaps one of the more egregious errors in our culture is the notion that the nuclear family is meant to remain intact.

It causes more stress, misgivings, grudges, insecurity, mishap and even murder than any other predicament facing our species.

If I were a coal miner in West Virginia, was unfortunately involved in a cave-in and spent nine days under the earth with eight other people, we would become very close. Matter of fact, we would share dreams, aspirations, prayers and any food and water available to sustain one another.

Yet to think that after I left that cave of impending death I should continue those relationships with my fellow-prisoners outside the mishap would be ridiculous, forced and disappointing.

For a season we share common goals and aspirations with our family. That experience can range from survival to ecstasy.

But humans are meant to come out of this cocoon and bloom in our individual lives, to start our own families, sustaining our species with new possibilities.

Some sisters have memories of the time when they grew up in the same house, but their journey takes them in completely different directions, with new friends, causing the old encounters to bring fond memories but not needful continuation.

Other sisters stay in the same communities, and it’s like their new families are extensions of the older rendition.

One thing is certain–it evolves naturally and cannot be manipulated through false emotion or guilt.

We must understand that for some people, the memory of their birthing family is pleasant but irrelevant, pleasant but valuable, pleasant but in the past.

For others such recollections are unpleasant and degrading, unpleasant and unnecessary, and unpleasant and harmful.

It is always better to look at the family of our youth as the ship that brought us to the New World. Sometimes that ship can sit out in the harbor of our environment as a memory of great times. And sometimes the ship is so full of holes that it needs to be sunk.

You can’t help people to be friends. Friendship is always based upon mutual concerns.

But what you can do is maintain the better parts of every experience as you launch out into newness of life.

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Friedens… April 5, 2013

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friedens colorFriedens. The word is German for “peace.” Yet when I first eyeballed it, it looked like it might be the word for “friends.”

Maybe those Germans have come up with something. After all, the best doorway to peace is to establish a gentle life with friends–and likewise, an excellent avenue to friends is to arrive with a bit of peace. Put the two together and you come up with the essence of faith.

Peace, friends, faith.

Peace: Dear God, I will find my life in You. It’s a promise. If I’m willing to lose the confusing mass of mixed signals that I call my will, I will gain my life.

Friends: I will let you into my life. There’s a certain vulnerability to the process of interacting with other human beings which is simultaneously frightening and invigorating. If I am not willing to let you into my life, it’s difficult to make a case for true friendship.

Faith: We have life abundant. Once I discovered my peace by finding my life in God, and I’ve humbled myself to let you into my life, the miracle of fellowship allows us to share life abundantly. friedens brick

Sunday morning I will be with the Friedens United Church of Christ. We will share a peace that will lead to friendship and culminate in faith.

 

 

Friedens

There is a place of peace

Where human fears release

Holding our trembling soul

Worry taking its toll

For then our mind will ease

Turmoil finally cease

And rest warm with others

Our sisters and our brothers

Breathe the scent Divine

Allow our light to shine

Sense what we dream to be

The truth that makes us free.

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