Dear Man/Dear Woman: A Noteworthy Conversation … July 2nd, 2016

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Dear Woman: Premise: Six couples on a ship, cruising through the Caribbean, participating in a couple’s retreat…

 

Dear Man: What are you talking about?

 

Dear Woman: Just be patient. Follow the premise. Do you see the six couples?

 

Dear Man: Are they squabbling?

 

Dear Woman: Each one on the verge of divorce. So they have all decided to take this last step in an attempt to save their marriages, even though all six are pretty well convinced it’s over.

 

Dear Man: So why are they on the cruise?

 

Dear Woman: Propriety. Maybe it just sounds fun to go on a cruise. Who knows? But they’ve agreed to do the therapy for three days, mingled with daiquiris and fresh crab.

 

Dear Man: OK. I can see it. So what’s the point?

 

Dear Woman: In the midst of the journey, the ship, although a pretty large yacht, is struck by a tsunami.

 

Dear Man: Wait. There are no tsunamis in the Caribbean.

 

Dear Woman: Work with me here. Let’s say there are. It’s huge. The tsunami, I mean. It destroys the ship and all the crew and counselors are lost except for these six couples, who wash on the shore of a desert island.

 

Dear Man: Is one of them named Gilligan?

 

Dear Woman: No. There’s no Professor or Mary Ann, either. Just six couples who went on a trip in an attempt to save their marriages–kind of.

 

Dear Man: You got my interest. So what happens next?

 

Dear Woman: That’s the point. Suddenly six couples who were fighting and arguing discover that they are marooned and in need of cooperation.

 

Dear Man: Don’t you think they would just keep fighting?

 

Dear Woman: Not if they want to survive. You see, I think that’s what keeps the gender wars alive in America–the luxury of laziness. Because we have so much time on our hands, and we’re not trying to raise crops and fight off Indians, and keep the drought from destroying the cattle, we have all this extra energy that we spend finding reasons to dislike each other.

 

Dear Man: That’s a little weird.

 

Dear Woman: Maybe. But think about it. If six quarreling couples suddenly found themselves trapped on a desert island, needing to interact to live, would there even be any discussion about who’s spending too much time at work or who needs more space?

 

Dear Man: Of course not. They wouldn’t even talk about man and woman issues at all.

 

Dear Woman: Here’s where it gets exciting. I think four things would immediately come to play. First, what do we really need? Not “what do we want?” or “what can we complain about?” What do we really need to make it through this day and maybe tomorrow?

 

Dear Man: I get it. Can I do a second one? I would want to know what you can do. After all, we have suddenly gone from being six couples to twelve people. So what can you do?

 

Dear Woman: And you would want to know about yourself–“what can I do?” Which leads to the fourth point: “What can we do together?”

 

Dear Man: So you’re saying, as men and women, we are much better off when we’re in survival mode instead of arguing about Netflix and PTA meetings.

 

Dear Woman: Absolutely. If our lives revolved around “what do we really need, what can you do, what can I do and what can we do together?”–we would embrace compliance.

 

Dear Man: Because on a desert island there is neither male or female. You are either a contributor or you are a drain on resources.

 

Dear Woman: Well said. So what happens if we simulate this in our everyday lives and look at each other as contributors instead of competitors?

 

Dear Man: That could be truly amazing.

 

Dear Woman: And amazing is exactly what we need to survive.

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The Alphabet of Us: T is for Truth (and also Timing)… April 20, 2015

 

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All human beings possess a heart, soul, mind and strength. Nothing of any true significance can be achieved unless this is understood.

I couldn’t make up my mind.

I was torn between truth and timing for this week’s “T” word in the Alphabet of Us. So at length I declared a tie.

But then, as I sat down and thought about it in preparing to write this essay, I realized the reason I had such difficulty in making a selection is that the two work so harmoniously together that separating them seems to be an injustice.

First, let me start off with a couple of definitions:

“Truth is what I have learned thus far.”

Since I am neither God nor privy to all of His personal thoughts, it is ridiculous for me to walk around espousing doctrines that are not totally my own experience. This definition of truth also leaves the door wide open for further discovery.

“Timing is what I’m ready to do.”

Once again, not what I wish to do or even feel compelled to accomplish, but what has settled in my soul as truth, which I am prepared to share in some articulate form.

I’m not so sure that life is the pursuit of truth, but rather, the acceptance of it.

Because denying the truth we have experienced in favor of the truth we espouse soon turns us into hypocrites. We convict ourselves to a prison with no escape.

Likewise, choosing the wrong time to enact our plan or display our gifts can be the classic case of “pearls before swine” and “giving that which is holy to the dogs.”

So life becomes simple.

“Let me figure out what I’ve learned thus far, and then, having that inventory, let me decide what I’m ready to do to promote this goodness.”

If we begin to believe that truth exists outside ourselves, we either become too prideful or too frightened.

If we choose the wrong timing to follow our dreams, we can quickly lose faith and have our hope turned to despair.

Do I know more today than I knew yesterday?

Absolutely.

But only because I used the truth I had acquired and applied it with the correct timing.

 

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